Onzichtbare Loyaliteit

‘We live in an age of anxiety, fear of violence and questioning of fundamental values. Confidence in traditional values is being challenged. Waves of prejudice seem to endanger our trust in one another and our loyalty to society. Television and other communications media have perhaps too deeply affected the outlook of contemporary youth and young adults. There is much talk about a generation gap making one wonder if formative family experience has become obsolete and irrelevant.
The strength of family relations or their effect on individuals is extremely difficult to measure. Observable changes in the family do not necessarily alter the member-to-member impact of family relationships. The real forces of bondage or freedom are beyond observable power games or manipulative tactics. Invisible loyalty commitments to one’s family follow paradoxical laws: the martyr who’s doesn’t let other family members work off their guilt is a far more powerfully controlling force than the loud, demanding bully. The manifestly rebellious or delinquent child may actually be the most loyal member of a family.
We have learned that family relationships cannot be understood from the laws that apply to social or incidental relationships such as those between fellow workers. The meaning of relationships depends on the subjective impact emerging between YOU and I.
The so-called closeness, feared by many people, develops as a result of loyalty commitments which become evident in a prolonged period of living and working together, whether the commitments are recognized or denied.’
We can terminate any relationship except the one based on parenting: in reality, we cannot select our parents or children. – Invisible Loyalties, Nagy-Spark

Zondag 11 september 2016 hebben we weer een dag Familieopstellingen.
Dit keer in Westmalle. Vlak bij de Belgisch/Nederlandse grens.
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